STIRRING THE ASHES

An educational experience centered on safe and honest conversations about race, enslavement, and healing in America

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One name.

Two histories.

Join us as we share our story, excavating the painful and personal history of slavery in America, and the beautiful truth we discovered in the process.

Stirring the Ashes is an educational experience led by De and Jimmie Lee Kirkpatrick.

In 1965, in the first days of school integration in Charlotte, NC, Jimmie Lee left his all-Black Second Ward High School his senior year to play football at the predominantly all white Myers Park High School., which De already attended. Jimmie was an outstanding football star, and their interactions were limited to nodding and saying “Hi Cuz” to each other in the hallways, referring to their shared last name. Although Jimmie was arguably the best football player in the state, because of his race, he wasn’t selected to play in the Shrine Bowl, the state’s annual All-Star football game between the best senior players in North and South Carolina. Civil rights attorney Julius Chambers launched a racial discrimination lawsuit, which unleashed several Ku Klux Klan bombings, including Chambers’ home and office. Chambers’ lawsuit ultimately resulted in future Black players being chosen to play in the game. After graduation, De headed to Harvard, and Jimmie to play football at Purdue and then to the west coast. Their lives re-converged 50 years later, as Jimmie began to explore his ancestry and discovered that he had a shared history with his white “Cuz” from high school. A series of phone calls later, the two men embarked on a journey that would change both of their lives forever. A journey of painful truths, secrets revealed, and the discovery that the power of grace and compassion can heal the deep racial wounds in this country. Their journey has been captured in the feature documentary film, A Binding Truth. They are now using this film as the centerpiece of a series of interactive experiences they will facilitate and provide for various groups in which they share their stories and the ways they have been able to come together and to heal their linked traumatic history.

We hope to share this with you through one of our educational experiences.

“ Sifting through the warm ashes of our past searching for that ember of truth”.

OUR STORY

One of the two central characters of this true story is Jimmie Lee Kirkpatrick, who in 1965 made a decision that changed history and swept him into one of North Carolina's most volatile civil rights cases played out at the explosive intersection of football and race. Jimmie Lee was raised in an all-Black, close-knit community on the outskirts of Charlotte, in Mecklenburg County. His father left the family when Jimmie was 11 years old. His mother was employed providing domestic work for an affluent white family - she raised their white children while Jimmie's great-grandparents raised him. It was a time when there were white and Black water fountains and public restrooms, and negative consequences for crossing societal lines. Like his dad, Jimmie was a gifted athlete and was a sensational running back – one of the best in North Carolina. He became deeply conflicted when a school-boundary changed and presented him with a choice for his senior year: His dilemma: stay with friends and teammates at all-Black Second Ward High, or move to affluent white Myers Park High School that offered many more opportunities. Almost 50 years later a Charlotte Observer newspaper series “Breaking Through” (2014) revealed untold connections between Jimmie Lee's undefeated 1965 football season at Myers Park, a high-stakes courtroom drama, and the midnight bombings of four civil rights leaders' homes in Charlotte - all the result of Jimmie having not been selected to play in the iconic Shrine Bowl football game. To this day when Jimmie Lee returns to Charlotte, ħe explains, “I live in two worlds. I see my white friends and my Black friends, but rarely together.” Among those who read the Observer series was De Kirkpatrick, a forensic psychologist and  former white classmate of Jimmie Lee' at Myers Park High School. The two weren't friends in high school, but, because of their last name, had jokingly called each other “Cuz.” Now, they made plans to talk for the first time in nearly 50 years. For many of those years, Jimmie had been in search of his genealogy, a complicated family history, and his own identity. In a shocking phone call, he shared with De what he had discovered – that their connection went back further than high school, to a Kirkpatrick plantation in Mecklenburg County on the eve of the Civil War. “Your great great-grandfather owned my great-great-great grandfather.”

This truth stunned De. To learn that his paternal ancestors were also planter-class slave owners was a life changing moment that sparked a journey for both men at age 65 into the reality of their shared history. “Put aside your guilt and I'll put aside my anger,” Jimmie Lee eventually told  De, “and we have a chance to learn from each other.” Their story continues, as they have become brothers seeking to understand their past. A story rooted in the South, it is also an American story -- a story of slavery's legacy, present-day anger, and the hope that by learning from each other, they can heal the deep, hidden wounds that most Americans have never faced.

Stirring the Ashes Process

  • Levine Museum of the New South

  • Children’s Theater, Charlotte

  • Illumina Corporation, IDE focus

  • UNC-Charlotte

  • Davidson Historical Society, Davidson, NC

  • Presentation about our ancestral history to various public and private schools, Charlotte (5th grade to 12th grade)

  • Mecklenburg Historical Society

  • Mecklenburg County History Roundtable

  • Charlotte History Museum

Since we began sharing our story over a decade ago, we came to the realization that our story—an American story and a Southern story—was a healing story. Our story aims, through an interactive process of film viewing and discussion, to reveal the truth about American enslavement—stirring the ashes of our past, present and future.

As a Black man and a white man, together we first tell a clear synopsis of our story, utilizing either a “sizzle reel,” a short film (approximately 13 minutes), or showing the full feature documentary, “A Binding Truth,” (approximately 90 minutes), and then we “get out of the way” and listen. Our story elicits people’s own stories about slavery as they struggle with and react to the truths about our own ancestors’ stories. We facilitate customized questions for the audience. We engage the audience with Q&A.

SOME PREVIOUS PRESENTATIONS

  • The “Brigerton Project,” The University of the South (Sewanee)

  • Foundation for the Carolinas

  • Myers Park Presbyterian Church, Sardis Presbyterian, St. Peter’s Episcopal, United Unitarian Church, Christ Episcopal Church, Myers Park Baptist Church, Caldwell Presbyterian Church, Beatties Ford Baptist Church in Charlotte, NC, Antioch Baptist Church, Charlotte, NC

  • Panel Discussion about the history of slavery in Charlotte-Mecklenburg, Sharon Branch of the Public Library

  • “Coming to the Table” National gathering

A Binding Truth has caused me to be more inquisitive and reflective of the history of slavery and its effects on our life today. The journey is a positive step to a brighter future.
— Jock Tonissen. President Navigator Financial
They’re instigators. They show a way forward.
— Woody Register, Ph.D. Francis S, Houghteling Professor of History University of the South (Sewanee)
We’ve gained that knowledge right now. Wow. You’re waking the dead. So now it’s got to move forward.
— Andy Wallace

“I hope that our story will allow others the ability to examine the history of race and slavery in America in a manner that is safe, healing, and productive.”

— Jimmie Lee Kirkpatrick

The Movie

A Binding Truth is the feature documentary film directed by Louise Woehrle, The film follows De and Jimmie’s journey over 4 years. It has screened and won numerous awards at film festivals globally. We use this film in our presentations as a launch point for our conversations and discussions.

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Click on the logo below to learn more about De’s book, Marse: A Psychological Portrait of the Southern Slave Master and His Legacy of White Supremacy.